Heartbreak reflections #2: when you’re ready, you’ll be strong enough to walk away

If there is one thing heartbreak has taught me is that sometimes we still pine, yearn, and hold out hope and boy do we look like fools doing so.

Maybe if I wear this certain outfit where I look real good then it’ll make them realize what they’ve missed: nope. Maybe if I act aloof and distant it’ll make them want me more: nope. Maybe if I get a little flirty and suggestive it’ll open up the door: nope.

All the tactics and schemes do nothing, and even if they did I have to ask myself, “Is that how I want my dynamic with someone to be? To be caught in this power struggle and desperation for attention, affection, and engagement?” Hell no!

Yet I cannot deny or suppress my deep desire to love and be loved, so I give myself the time and space to act a fool and come to the realisation that the best thing I can do is just walk away.

And truly, it’s more of a walking to something greater.
Greater self-love, integrity, and respect for one’s self.

And the self-esteem and confidence that comes with knowing I am willing to walk away when there is no longer anything for me on the table. Hell! I brought the table, I’m walking away with that too!

To our growth,
Jean.

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